Saturday, May 17, 2014

Hop Against Homophobia Blog Hop 2014

TGIF and welcome to the Hop Against Homophobia Blog Hop.

Prejudice of any wrong is just wrong, and is usually based on fear and ignorance. Many people fear what they do not understand, or what they perceive to be a threat - either to themselves, or to their way of life. Many peoples have been targeted with such ignorance over the years - for their race, for their religion, and for their sexuality.

It's time to stop the madness.

Spread the word. Prejudice will not be tolerated any more. Usually, those who are ignorant enough to believe in these things do so because they think they have someone else's backing. Let them know that they are wrong. Explain why they are wrong. Because people are people, and love is love. And no one should be allowed to tell you who to love.

There have been great strides since last year at this time, more states taking a stand and legalizing same sex marriage, because it is the right thing to do. But there is still a ways to go.

Last year, I told you about my experience with homophobia. I'm going to repeat that story here. Homophobia can affect anyone, and it does.

When I grew up, there was a lot of prejudice against black people. Even though segregation was over, it was still there. People don't change overnight and they don't change easily. I grew up in white neighborhoods, and didn't see a black person in my school until I was in the fifth grade. Why? I don't know, that's just how it was. What I remember from then is my father telling my mother that her sister, my aunt, could not bring her current boyfriend to our house. Why? Because he was black.

Prejudices are just stupid and they're wrong. And yet they exist because too  many people are content to say nothing and do nothing, either from ignorance or from fear. Or because they think it doesn't concern them.

But it does. It concerns everyone. Intolerance of someone is an intolerable situation, and one we can rectify.
But you have to want to do it, and you have to be willing to open your mind, and heart - and use your brain.

Homophobia is far too rampant in this country. The far right will tell you homosexuality is a choice, but it isn't. It's how you're born. It's hardwired into you, like eye color, hair color, etc. The bottom line is that you love who you love.

So what are they afraid of? I've noticed that it's more often the men that bear the brunt of the displeasure, although not exclusively. Men seem to have a higher "tolerance" for women who love women. In fact, it often fuels some of their fantasies. But let it be two men and watch the denials start to roll. What are you afraid of? That perhaps you too could love a man? Is that such a bad thing?

The problem has only gotten worse in recent years because these ill-conceived attitudes are being handed down to the children, at a time when more and more young people have found the courage to speak out, to question and accept and deal with their own sexuality. And they are being bullied for it by narrow-minded young bigots who parrot their parents' unadulterated messages of hate. Too many of our children have died, taken their own lives because of the bullying.

It has to stop!

Being homophobic is every bit as wrong as being prejudiced against people of color, or people of a different faith, or  people of a different race. You can dislike someone for who they are as an individual, but don't hate because of something like sexual orientation.

There are some people, such as the now late Reverend Fred Phelps, who preach messages of hatred and carry them to extremes. There are members of Congress who also spew messages of hate. They think they are conveying the word of God - I'd love to be a fly on the wall when they arrive at the Day of Judgement and realize just how wrong they've been. When did they decide that God hated people? What right do they have to spread their lies and prejudices under His name? Somehow, I don't think He'd be amused.

And then there are people like my brother. I worked for him for over thirteen years. I did payroll, bookkeeping, billing, scheduling - everything but income taxes, and I even helped with those. I made it possible for him to spend little time in the office. When he got married (for the third time, I might add) and he and his new bride were on their two week honeymoon, traveling around the eastern seaboard and Canada, I didn't even tell him I got very sick, I still went into the office and took care of business so I wouldn't disturb him. I knew he was born-again Christian, but I didn't let it bother me. We had gay clients, and he acted like he liked them. But the signs were there, which I chose not to see, I guess. Like when I told him on the phone I'd gone to see Brokeback Mountain and he started to lecture. It all came to a head when my first published book, To the Max, was released. Silly me, I was so proud of holding my book in my hands. I took it to the office and showed it to him, held it out to him. I didn't want or expect him to read it, but just to wonder at what I had done, to admire it, and to have nice things to say. He wouldn't even touch it. Like it was the lowest form of human excrement. It wasn't long after that he "laid me off" because of having less work. While it's true we lost our biggest client, that was his fault, not mine, for something he didn't do.

Update: I started working for a temp agency last June, but the work is sporadic and not stable. However,
I've been at my current job, with National Elevator Inspection Services, for five weeks now and it looks like I could be there for a while. So things are looking up. I still have not spoken to my brother since he fired me, which is almost three years ago now.

Don't be afraid to stand up for what you believe in. The Power of Love is a wonderful thing, stronger than those who hate.


I will give to three winners a copy of anything from my backlist. And one winner will receive a $10 Amazon GC. What do  you have to do? It's simple - follow my blog, and tell me something about one of my books. Whether it's plot or favorite character - what you like or don't like.  And don't forget to include your email address, otherwise your entry won't be valid. If I can't reach you, I can't very well give you a prize, can I?

To learn more about the International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia, go here
To follow the rest of the Hop, go here..
Also, my friend Jim didn't quite make the hop, but he has a post about homophobia, too, so please visit him here.

The hop will continue until the 24th.  I have some guests lined up during this time, so I hope you come back
and see what they have to say. I will be posting on this topic again.

Now, get out there and take a stand!

Until next time, take care!

♥ Julie


  1. When Will I See You Again sounds like an interesting read among your books. The title is itself so touching.

    I have followed your blog by email.


    1. Thank you, Ray, I'm glad you like it. I'm currently working on the sequel, When Will I Be Loved. Thanks for stopping by!

  2. followed by GFC
    you are a new-to-me author and I'd be interested in reading as I really enjoy PNR

    1. There is something so compelling about PNR, isn't there? Thanks for stopping by, Lee!

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  4. Honestly, I haven't read any of your books, but was following, 'No Way Out' but I haven't had an update since February. I'm hoping you plan on finishing it.


    1. Hi Penumbra! I've been temporarily sidetracked with the sequel to When Will I See You Again, but rest assured, I shall finish No Way Out, and you shall receive updates as soon as I do. Thanks for your patience!

  5. *waves* Hey!
    I, of course, have read all your books. ;)

    1. Hey there! *waves back*

      You've beta'd a lot of them too lol

  6. Great post. The Prince Wore Pink Stilettos was the first story I read from you and it was the book that had me looking forward to reading more of your stories.

    humhumbum AT yahoo DOT com

  7. I loved Revelations, When Will I See You Again, and Be MyAlien. They were all great books. I'd have to say my favorie characters are Taz from be my Alien and Raoul and Alexx from When Will I See you Again. Thank you for the giveaway.


  8. I was just thinking about you today, Shorty! I wanted to let you know that I'm on chapter 9 of Miller's story, When Will I Be Loved, and my beta readers are loving it :)

  9. I haven't read any of your books yet but several are on my TBR list. I discovered you through Wednesday Briefs and have been following you since Ollie and Stan. (Who I loved!) Like Penumbra, I'm also looking forward to seeing what happens with Shy and Wyatt.

  10. I think SWEET DREAMS, MY LOVE is still my favorite--I always mention it to those interested in an m/m fairy tale!


  11. Thanks for participating. all we can do is keep pushing to break down barriers and help people realize that they can't hate someone they don't know!

  12. Yes, He's my Ex is on my TBR. It's sound pretty interesting. (oh and I followed the blog!)

  13. Revelations is a definite must-read for me. From the sample I downloaded, it's very interesting premise!

    I can so identify with Taz from Be My Alien. I've been used in the same way, having my so-called date use me to make someone he was interested in jealous. What an a**-wipe!

  14. Max is my favorite character in both books. For the Love of Max and To the Max

  15. I love Raul and Alexx.. I gave When Will I See You Again fieve stars on goodreads.. it's a beautiful story

  16. I have to say that I would probably be most interested in your vampire books as I am new to you.

  17. A powerful but sad story, Julie. Hugs.
    Thanks for joining us.

  18. Thank you for taking part in the hop! When Will I See You Again sounds like a really good story.

  19. I enjoyed your post. Thanks for being part of the hop.
    sstrode at scrtc dot com