I have to say that I'm perplexed and more than a little puzzled at what I perceive to be a growing trend among "romance" novels, and yes, I'm withholding final judgment on whether they are actually romance or not, but you'll see what I mean as I go on. Menages have come out of the closet and are extremely prevalent, I've noticed. Not just menage a trois, but quatre or cinque or more.
Seriously? Sometimes they're same sex - all men or all women - and sometimes it's one person of one and the rest of the other. I have actually yet to see any with a bunch of women and one man, generally it's one woman and a ton of menfolks. Now take this for what it's worth, but in my opinion, one woman and seven men means a whole lot of slutting going on. How does this begin to be justified as romance? I do not understand.
It's in human nature to pair off, so a trio becomes awkward when that pairing occurs. I guess that with four, you can at least break off into two couples, but hell, why not have two monogamous couples, then, why the back and forth?
I don't believe that men, by their very nature, are willing to share one woman. I can see it more in a m/m relationship, because with some men it is nothing more than sex, and while they are faithful in their own way to their partners as far as their hearts are concerned, their dicks are allowed to roam cause it really doesn't mean anything. For example, Brian and Justin in Queer as Folk. They both do other people, sometimes in front of one another. But these others mean nothing, it is Brian and Justin who ultimately matter.
I don't see it, and I don't get it. This isn't romance. This is how many people and positions can I throw into a book, so I don't have the same two people doing all the pounding. That is not romance. Romance is passion and love and trust and fidelity. And when you're doing a whole slew of other people, where is that? Not to mention, sometimes these others are brothers! WTF? Do you seriously see brothers as being willing to share someone they allegedly care about?
I just don't get it. And I don't read it. I like my couples to be couples - in twos. Whether m/m or m/f. If you have an argument for more, feel free to fire away, but I don't guarantee that I'll ever be convinced.
Last night I went to my instant netflix queue for entertainment, and I ended up watching two disparate pieces of cinema. The first was a documentary on child killer/cannibal Albert Fish. It was very interesting, and I learned much about the man, who looked to be a harmless little old grandfather, but nothing could have been further from the truth. We'll never know how many children he did kill and/or torture. He was caught when he sent a letter to the mother of victim Grace Budd. The things he did were unbelievable, so watch this knowing that parts of it may make your squirm. There is nothing visually graphic, but the discussion does delve into uncomfortable realms. That being said, I found it interesting.
I'll probably talk Monday about the cooking stuff I'm watching, such as Master Chef, Next Network Food Star, and also the new Flipping Out.
As always, feel free to comment, ask questions, or simply say hi! I'd love to hear from you!